Your smile will give you a positive countenance that will make people feel comfortable around you.
— Les Brown
Lately, I’ve been reminding myself that to be happy I need to be doing what I love, which includes theatre, writing, and reading… as well as being around those that I like.
The problem here is that half of my friends left the country, and I’ve really been stuck. G has lots of friends here and I see them often enough, but I’ve been feeling a little weird still. I don’t have many friends that are just my friends, so I don’t have a lot of time away from G. I always felt like G and I are great at living together but not letting our lives revolve around each other too much, but to be honest… recently it has felt that way.
Part of this is because I got so used to my own company and the group that I’ve had for the past few years. Now that they’re gone, I don’t really know how to make new friends anymore. I think I’m generally a decently sociable person despite my need for alone time to recharge, but I’m having a tough time meeting new people.
When I came across Les Brown’s quote, it reminded me that it’s as simple as being approachable. And smiling is a huge part of that – who would you approach, the lone person sitting closed off and looking miserable, or the person with a smile on their face?
So a few weeks ago, G and I went to a game board cafe, just the two of us. It was packed that day, so we had to share a table with another group. We were having a good time playing pretty silly games (Exploding Kittens is hilarious) and the group next to us was laughing so loudly both G and I kept glancing over, wanting to play whatever they were playing. And eventually, we did — we said hello and they asked us to join them. (Turns out Anomia is the culprit of all the laughing.)
It really was as simple as being approachable. Seeing the group of them smiling and having a good time made G and I feel at ease to ask them about their game, and it made them comfortable to ask us to join.
Has someone’s smile affected how comfortable you feel approaching them? Let me know in a comment below.
Sandra at what sandra thinks recently challenged me to do 3 Days 3 Quotes; this is my response for the first day.
Although I do feel similar about this as the nominations for blogging awards, in that they seem a lot like chain mail, it’s really nice to be recognized! So, thank you, Sandra 🙂 I’m happy that you enjoy reading my blog.
The rules of the 3D3Q are: (1) Thank the person who nominated you, (2) Select one quote per day for the next three days and write a little something on it, and (3) nominate three other bloggers for the challenge.
I’ll leave my nominations for the last day, so I can have some more time to read blogs and choose my nominees.